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Gratitude as a state of mind

gratitude

How often do you notice how great things are in life, and say thank you?

Or, how often do you notice how shit things feel in life, and are thoroughly not thankful for them!?

It’s all too easy to get caught up in the mind and label a situation as good or bad, depending on expectations of what’s wanted in that moment of time.

I still flit between these 2 states, but happily, the state of gratitude, seems to keep growing.  This isn’t because I won the lottery or finally worked through all of my shit, but it’s because I got sick of being depressed about all the things and the lessons I cannot change.  Slowly but surely, my focus keeps shifting to see more of the positives in life, and aiming to express gratitude for them; especially when I’ve had a rough day.

Try it, when you think things couldn’t get worse, or when you wonder why the hell you’ve ended up in the shit; find points about it that you can be thankful for.  It’s hard, sometimes very hard at first, but over time, the shit subsides and you begin to see the point to the lessons you’re seeing.

What are you grateful for?  Write your own list, please share it if you like!   Below is a small list from my daily thanks:

  • Thank you for my bed, and all it’s warm and comfy bits which allow me to sleep soundly
  • Thank you for my family; including my husband, friends, parents, brothers and sisters and all the beautiful people who help give meaning to my life and keep inspiring and loving me, no matter how I feel towards myself
  • Thank you for my health and all the people, foods and products that nourish me 
  • Thank you to my home, for keeping me warm and dry and allowing me to have my little space of paradise in the hecticness of London
  • Thank you to my job(s) which help me to earn my living in this current society
  • Thank you to my winter coat, you’re very warm and much needed right now
  • Thank you for my shower, all hot and cleansing and awesome
  • Thank you for all the things I walk into and that trip me up, and my clumbsyness, as it’s in these moments I realise my state of unmindfulness and again refocus into the present moment
  • Thank you to all the random people who either entertain, show kindness or aren’t very nice to help me see these same things in myself
  • Thank you to the Scientific art that is Yoga (and Pilates) which has helped me to pull my head out of my arse and enables me to lead a more and more fulfilling life with every breath I take
  • And of course, Thank you to all my teachers and students who help to keep me on the track I most prefer and shine a light where I didn’t notice one previously

 

Namaste, so much love, and have a fun weekend 🙂 xxx

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5 tips for achieving a regular practice

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Have you ever found yourself starting something and enjoying it, but then, letting it all fall by the waste-side in a hopeless mess?

I have, many times.  Thankfully it generally doesn’t happen with my yoga practice.  Here’s a few tips I use to help me reap the benefits of having a regular yoga practice:

  1. Make a consistent space in your diary.  You can find classes any time of any day (especially if you live in a big city), pick a time you can stick to for at least the next 4 – 6 weeks.
  2. Find a teacher who you feel good about seeing, and who guides you to a constructive, and potentially happier place during and after class.  There are many of us teachers; and if you don’t feel shiny, light and the desire to return then the chances are you wont; and thus it probably isn’t the right teacher for you.  Explore someone else’s class.
  3. Aim to attend at a studio that is relatively accessible/not too far out of your way; a 1 hour journey to and from class can be a right downer, and quite draining (unless you live out in the sticks and it might be quite a pleasant ride or less choice!).
  4. Eat appropriately around the class.  I.e. don’t fill up your belly (especially on meat or heavy, stodgy dishes) less than 3 hrs before class.  Some fruit or nuts are an ideal snack if you need something to keep you going in the mean time.  Keep it light.
  5. Have fun with it!  If it starts to feel like a bore or work activity it’ll soon lose it’s majic and charm.

All in all, lighten up with your practice 😉

Much love x

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Listening to yourself

 bodymind

Fortunately, my body is hypersensitive and thus is one which makes me listen; for which I am very grateful.  Even just the subtle signs of pimples, aches or dry skin can be your body trying to get you to listen to it as a means to help it function better.

Listening to yourself could be inferred in many ways.  There are multiple parts to our existence and thus there’s multiple parts of us we can listen to.

The body:  Tells us when we’re hungry or in pain

The mind:  Constant babble that can either be useful in solving complex arithmetic, or, is the distracting and destructive voice of the ego, which keeps us battling with ourselves or others

The higher mind/soul/spirit:  This tells us how best to reach our ultimate goals and where the love is

In my experience, it’s quite a noise occurring,  and the default or easiest part to listen to is the one which shouts loudest, i.e. the ego/mind.  Fortunately for me however, my body screams quite loudly at me a lot when I disrespect it; and has forced me to listen to it over my ego.  The current societal set up in the UK gears us from birth towards wanting money, power and externally percieved ‘beauty’, i.e. the mind/ego fulfillment; this is how I ended up in hospital a few times.  If it wasn’t for listening to my body then I’m not sure where I’d be right now but I doubt it would be a great place.

It’s only by learning to listen to the subtle and gross signs in my body that I’ve learnt to not listen so much to the crap in my mind.  In turn, I am then more able to listen to my higher mind/soul and find the love and direction I so desparately craved before.  Hence my moto:

Get into your body to get out of your mind!

x

 

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Winter Time, New Year Rhyme

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I have a marked lethargy and need for thicker socks.  Time to take stock, before we rock, 2014  😉

Thus in Winter we are here,
make the most for this time of year.
As our minds feel easier to clear;
Time to reflect and learn from this last year.

Learn the lessons from 12 months last;
Take all I need from this year passed.
Holidays and new year’s day;
We come again to celebrate,
And share the love where we feel great.

Sometimes are hard and not so fun;
But this FRESH New year is nearly begun.
There’s every potential that much joy can come;
or even sorrow I may wish to numb.

So I take some time and dig down deep,
and find the habits I wish not keep.

What’s the point in my life next year;
unless it’s to love and pass lessons I used to fear?
Thus in Winter we are here,
Let’s make the most in this time of year.

Love xxx

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New Year New Moon

new year new moon

A new moon signifies a time to set new intentions for the coming lunar month.  Using the vast energy of the moon we can have a stronger drive into our favored direction.  If this all sounds a bit far fetched, check out tide times, hospital and police staffing numbers and what happens to more sensitive people you know during different phases of the moon.

A new year, for us in the Northern hemisphere, is at the start of deep winter; usually accompanied by lots of rain, a chance of a cleansing, white blanket of snow and a reset in nature.  The new year is the perfect time to signify starting a fresh, New Years resolutions are a plenty.

This new years day coincides with a new moon, thus double whammy on the energetic potential for resolution or intention setting.  For me, thus hopefully helping with healthier living, happier loving and a greater joy to life generally for 2014.

What’s your intention/resolution/revolution for 2014?

Get focused, meditate on it a little; then let it go of it; live your life with as much love as possible.  Do the hard work you feel serves you when it comes up and trust in yourself.  You’re beautiful and boundless.

 

Namaste x

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Motivation Pit Stop

Foody-Buddha-Belly

Self-yoga practice was really hard to get going today.  I felt more like hugging my foody-buddha belly and going back to bed!

Several days of over stuffing on yummy food, inclusive of surviving yesterday solely on my mum’s vegan, wheat free Christmas cake and dark chocolate.  Stretching never felt so tiresome yet so goooooooood 🙂

If you’ve been stagnant for a few days, maybe have a roll around on the floor or better yet come in for class tomorrow, 11am @ Brilliant Corners.  Let me help you to easy your body back into feeling good, and gently putting one foot forwards for flowing into new years eve dinner and dancing!

 

 

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A Pensive Poem from Home

Home Poetry

My homeward retreat has again left me replenished and refreshed.  Filling up with the abundance of love on offer; especially when taking a moment or 2 to listen to another.

Thus I am honored to share a smidgen of my love from home; in the form of this Christmassy poem.  (Written by R)

“Christmas is coming
That fact I truly know,
the times they are a changing
Time for me to go.

“Optimism, Fear and Regret,
Friends that I know.
Utopia, Rainbow’s End
Places where I’ll grow.

“The future is uncertain
Dare I turn the next page,
Adventure, Happiness and Knowledge
Or alcohol soft middle age.

“Christmas is coming
Goodbye to all held dear,
Everything is changing
My Destiny is near.”

 

Happy Holidays, InJoy what and where you land. x

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Winter Solstice & Low energy

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Class cancelled.  Dark skies.  Nothing seems to be lifting my energy today.

The Winter Solstice is upon us and marks the start of deep, dark winter.  Deep winter being when animals hibernate as a means of survival and the harvest of crops is at a minimum.

This year is the first time I’ve been quiet enough to reflect on my own internal state, and fully listen to the world around me.  Today, I go easy on myself – self-practice, relax and retreat to the coastal countryside I call home.

 

Happy Solstice.  Keep the fires burning inside, so this winter we can all thrive.  See you for a heating & restorative class next week x

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Worried? Stressed? Less. Now.

Now the Discipline of Yoga

Less and less I worry and hold on to the tensions which eats at me.

By remembering to ask myself, how am I right Now?  It keeps getting easier to find my own peace of mind.

Until I began a regular yoga practice, my life revolved around stress; always regretting what I felt I could have done better, or worrying about what discontent may lie ahead.  Thus, continually perpetuating the cycle of stress, worrying and rushing more to try and make up for what was bugging my mind; getting more and more sick with dis-ease all the time.

The first of the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali states:

“*Now the discipline of yoga”

Patanjali (who was a great scientist of mind, body and spirit) lived 5,000 years ago; thus the meaning of these exact words may have changed a little.

Now.  The Discipline (i.e. to work with and do). Yoga: the 8 limb/step path to bliss.

This is the main sutra which keeps hitting me when I worry or get stressed.  It reminds me that ‘Now’ is all I have, Now is what I must work with, and Now I am in no real danger.

Sometimes reflection on the past or preparation for the future can be useful; but worry and stress is a waste of my resources.

 

*there are various translations of the sutras, or put another way”*Now is the time for yoga”  but this is the one which I chose to use here.

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Food Intolerance Testing

Foods Testing

This morning I went on a quest, in search of on which foods perhaps I should rest.

I was surprised to hear how busy this little hospital department is here

Fructose, lactose, and glucose: sugars present in most things we ingest; and thus why I’m here for this test.

It’s been a long slog aiming to understand what makes me bloat, burp and generally hurt

Lactose, gluten, fibre and wheat; dairy, fructose, additives or meat?

We’re all told what’s ‘good’ for us; what we should eat, what we like or simply what’s cheap.

But what is it one needs as optimal feeds?

Food, nutrition and their products all seem such a mess; what I need to find is the moderation of what suits me best.